Queerly Committed

In Love With Potential (S3 E7)

• Queerly Committed • Season 3 • Episode 7

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Ever fallen for someone’s potential and woke up wondering when the real partnership would start? We dive straight into the messy middle: why “perfect” is a myth, how settling sneaks in under the banner of optimism, and what it takes to choose yourself without apology. From the first laugh‑out‑loud “dead grass” cold open to candid reflections on divorce, red flags, and quiet quitting of the heart, we pull apart the difference between co‑adulting and genuine partnership—and how acceptance and boundaries make all the difference.


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SPEAKER_00:

Sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side.

SPEAKER_02:

Nope. Get over there. God damn it, this grass is dead here, too. It's bullshit.

SPEAKER_01:

Oh my god, blue yards. Now I got two dead two. Now I got two dead grasses, and everybody everybody's an asshole. That's it, I'm done. I'm leaving.

SPEAKER_00:

Hello, darlings. Welcome back to the QCP, the place where your healing is celebrated, your life is appreciated, and you are welcome exactly as the version you are right the fuck now.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm Corey. And I'm Aaron. Welcome back, QC fam. We're glad to have you here. Exactly as you are. Life is messy, healing's messy, growth is messy, it's okay. Showing up for yourself doesn't come with a shine of reward. It comes with something more special.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes, it absolutely does. Pressure makes diamonds, heat hardens an egg, and it also softens butter. Do you know what happens to garlic if you start to mash it?

SPEAKER_03:

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00:

And do you know what happens whenever you continue to mash it? More fucking garlic! Like it just gets even more and more potent.

SPEAKER_02:

Acceptance. I think it's uh we need to talk about acceptance. You know, accept your imperfections because your imperfections are perfection. It's human, it's organic as fuck. Yeah. And the idea of perfection and the perfect partner, or even the perfect version of yourself, perfection is a silly thing. It doesn't doesn't even really fucking exist. It really doesn't. It's subjective. It is. I think it's subjective to perspective, right?

SPEAKER_00:

It yeah, but because I mean like, and I've I have said that you are perfect for me, and I wholeheartedly genuinely stand on that 1000%. I also believe that you are an imperfect being. I mean like I I like I Oh, I got flaws all fucking day.

SPEAKER_02:

And I love my I love every single one of them. Right. If it's if it's something that I can change, like like if you know, emotionally aware and whatnot. If it's something disgusting, like let me know. Like I don't think I had I don't think I do anything that's too fucking nasty. You don't. Okay, cool. You don't. I think I do, but we've talked about it. Yeah, we're fine. We all have our like gross things. It's fine.

SPEAKER_00:

I'm I am a gremlin.

SPEAKER_02:

You're amazing.

SPEAKER_00:

I love you.

SPEAKER_02:

I love you.

SPEAKER_00:

I love you. And like you said though, I believe that the idea of perfection or perfect is a very unique and individual preference. It's unique to the user that says it.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

It is our duty to shape our own understanding and ideas surrounding perfection and the idea of such, both inside and outside of the relationship.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. And before we even meet our person, we all have our own idea of the perfect partner for ourselves, right? It's uh it's gonna be one that meets our needs and expectations and desires, and it's gonna be in a fulfilling way, because if it's not like what the fuck? Again, it it's completely unique to the individual. You're it's something that you're gonna explore. So what happens in that space of exploration? Sometimes we adjust our own expectations and uh shifting, maybe even diluting ourselves into believing we need to accept less than because I've actually done that. Oh yeah I um yeah, I've settled a lot. And funny enough, this was the first time I didn't settle. I love that. Isn't that it? Isn't that fun? I this is the first time I didn't settle. It's like, well, I I guess uh I guess this is fine. Bitch, you are you have just hang keep hanging those red flags up. Keep going.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. No, I've I've absolutely done that. And in fact, you and I have talked about the word partner and specifically what that means and what that means to us now.

SPEAKER_03:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

Because before I truly understood the word partner, I used it to describe essentially the person I was sleeping with.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

Because looking back, I can see how people from my past and I we were co-adulting. More than living together, we coexisted, same space, but not actually in the same space. It was like ah it was like because two individuals are together, boom, poof, they're partners. But like a partner is a partner. There's a big difference between partner and co-adulting situationship. Yeah, because honestly, like we we did not view the relationship to be the same. Right. And that starts with our foundation, our and like our what do you want out of this?

SPEAKER_02:

Right. And I do I do feel that it comes, I do come, I feel that it comes with emotional maturity. I think that a lot of us when we are you know, we're we're younger, we're just excited that somebody actually like likes us. I think that's where a lot of the settling comes from, you know, because it's like, okay, because most of the time, it's like a lot of the scratch of the surface kind of things. It's like, well, I'm physically attracted to this person, so let's try to make this work. And it's like, oh my god. Ah so you um so there's I know a lot of uh I know that a lot of my relationships they were they pretty much like started on physicality. And um I yeah, it was it was kind of like um it was kind of like that I was in love with their potential and like in love with the possibility of who they could be and not actually who they were. And I know that like in relationships, I know that the the more a the more emotionally intelligent I became, the more of a partner I was.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

And I wanted to I was trying to, you know, have partnerships with people, and just clearly we have different ideas of what that means. So right.

SPEAKER_00:

And until you understand yourself for yourself, what that partner looks like for you and for the relationship that you want, you know what I mean? Like it's it's gotta be an inward search first. What do I always say? It starts with you.

SPEAKER_02:

Yes.

SPEAKER_00:

Because it does. It does. It starts with us as an individual.

SPEAKER_02:

Yes. You gotta you really gotta put your first your yourself first. Yeah. You have to put yourself first. So it's just like, huh? It's like, they do these does this person check off all of the fucking boxes?

SPEAKER_00:

And get fucking stupid, ridiculous with it. I mean ridiculous.

SPEAKER_02:

Specific. Be fucking specific. And if anything like if anything's like, uh, that's that's one of the do knots on my list. Well then that's that person's not for you. Right. I and yet you're like, oh, but it's just one thing. It's one is too many. Yeah. It's too fucking many because that one thing is going to be a fucking wedge.

SPEAKER_00:

It's gonna happen.

SPEAKER_02:

I know that I can speak from experience.

SPEAKER_00:

It turns into a chasm that neither one of you can bridge.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

unknown:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

And at that point, it it's like Pangea. You guys have already split up. Whether you realize it or not, you've already fucking split up. So, for example, sometimes whenever we actually take steps and initiate a divorce, the grieving started a long time ago.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

It didn't start whenever paperwork got filed.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

Grieving started when the chasm started to get too big that it it became apparent.

SPEAKER_02:

Quite quitting.

SPEAKER_00:

Right. And like it wouldn't see it, you can't unsee it.

SPEAKER_02:

Right, right. And it but it is like that. It's not something that just instantly happens. And I know that a lot of partners are like, it just came sound another way. I don't understand how it could be so cold. It's like, I don't understand how you couldn't fucking see it.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, because I could tell you every single building block that led to this moment right here.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

And and you're shocked, right?

SPEAKER_02:

You can't you don't understand. You don't know why you're being served divorce papers? Right, right.

SPEAKER_00:

That's fucking crazy. Well allow me to spell it out for you. In fact, never mind, I won't, because I got shit to do.

SPEAKER_02:

Talk to the lawyer.

SPEAKER_00:

That's correct. Enjoy lights.

SPEAKER_02:

And just to clarify, it's she didn't serve me divorce papers. No, I did not. We um we're good.

SPEAKER_00:

I was previously, well, I'm previously married.

SPEAKER_02:

She is a divorce.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, I am a divorcee.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

And that didn't frighten me away. I appreciate that. Yeah. Cause like I was just more curious than anything. I was like, okay. And I appreciate that too. I don't think I worried about it. Like it didn't occur to me as like a quote unquote blemish or red mark or or anything like that. It it just it's part of my past and history as far as like who I am and where I've been. It helps to better understand me as an individual and my experience based on what I've been through. And I also don't expect anybody else to understand that because I got it.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So step to the left, bitch. Not you, you're not a bitch.

SPEAKER_02:

I I know. No, I'm not a bitch.

SPEAKER_00:

No, Aaron, you're not a bitch, and also our listeners. You're not a bitch either.

SPEAKER_02:

I'm not sure. I love you.

SPEAKER_00:

I love you all.

SPEAKER_02:

You're wonderful.

SPEAKER_00:

And like you were talking about, too, being in love with their pi potential, the possibility of who they could be. Right. Like I realized I didn't really know what it felt like or even really looked like to be in a partnership, to be part of a partnership.

SPEAKER_02:

It's almost kind of like you didn't even know what it was like to be in love. Yeah. Because a lot of the time, like, that's what it is. You are in love with someone's potential. I can work with it. Yeah. I can work with this. Yeah. I'm flexible. Right. So you're so uh right off the bat, it's just already like it's already fucking doomed because you're not even you're not even in love with the person that you're like looking at. You're in love with a fake version that you've created. Right.

SPEAKER_00:

And if we think about that, like you're almost energetically in debt before you have fucking started.

SPEAKER_02:

Right, because now you're shoveling all of your energy over onto their fucking plate, trying to get them up to you know, being like, ah, people wonder why it doesn't work. Right. It's like people are gonna be who they want to fucking be, believe them. Right. The first time, the first time, right? That's correct. Right. It's like, oh, waste of potential. Yeah, well, ever. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Right. Like, yeah, that's just, I mean, like, that's just how it is. Like, with you and I, I can see that our partnership is a fucking partnership. Yeah. There's no question to me, I don't doubt what a partnership is because I know what a partnership is.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

But I know what that is because I also had to backtrack this to where I was then. Yeah you know what I mean? I couldn't I couldn't be in a partnership if I didn't even understand what I wanted or needed from a partner.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. So I knew I I knew all of the things I did not fucking want. Oh yeah, no very adamantly, like very adamantly. This is yeah, I'm like, these are my do-nots. These are my bonuses. Oh gosh. But um, do you think that there's any connections between who you were then and like past participants?

SPEAKER_00:

Oh my god, yeah. Absolutely, for sure. Because I was looking for a partner without even knowing what that meant.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

I it's almost like I wanted or needed someone else to show me.

SPEAKER_02:

Ah.

SPEAKER_00:

And I was like, okay, well, I'll just keep doing this until somebody shows me what a partner is.

SPEAKER_02:

It's gonna click one day.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, well, I'll fucking figure it out.

SPEAKER_02:

Adam's all gonna click one day.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. And and honestly, you don't know that you don't know something until you know that you don't know it.

SPEAKER_02:

Right? It's like, oh shit.

SPEAKER_00:

Right. So it's all in hindsight because it's as it's obviously it's much clearer for me to see it now than it was then.

SPEAKER_03:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

Because then it looked like delusions and illusions, like completely separate realities being experienced that obviously did not align.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. And I mean, uh, there was like uh I know that I was just like, um, that's a red flag. That's a red flag. That's a red flag. How the fuck am I in a relationship right now? What the hell happened? What is going on? Right. How did I end up here? That's not my beautiful wife. Like, uh what up? So in your observations, like what patterns have you seen in your own observations?

SPEAKER_00:

For me, I absolutely saw there was an outward search for approval. Yeah, because not only did I feel like I needed someone else to show me or teach me what a partner was, I also felt like I was searching for acceptance. I believed that I was supposed to get married, have kids, have my life like my parents did, or their parents before them. But fucking for who though? Because certainly not myself.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. It was so pretty much it was just performative.

SPEAKER_00:

It was. And then I engaged in relationships with people who were certain in themselves, and even when those certainties that they had were one, not what I wanted or chose for myself, for example, religion, habits, lifestyle, career, whatever. Yeah, two, harmful to me and or other people that I love. Yeah. Politics, morals. You know what I mean? So I was so so worried about being accepted, but I could not see that I did not fucking accept myself. Right. Um, and like looking back now, I can see that then in those moments I saw what I needed to see. Even if I took the scenic route to do it, my outward search for me started within me. Ironic, isn't it? Which that I never had to be anyone else other than me. Right. And the more I leaned into myself, the gap between the two realities started to blur. And it's a beautiful unison in harmony.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, it's it's um, it's definitely uh it's definitely changing. You know, it's life-changing when you stop putting yourself on the back burner. Good, you know, and you're just like when you're just so secure and confident with who you are, like there's this is it. Like, this is this is just how I roll, this is how it's gonna be, you know? And um and I I know that a lot of like I know that I fucking I was a people pleaser, I put my shit on the back burner, I gave I poured from empty cups all fucking day, like there was nothing left. And I know that sometimes before you even realize that you know reality's shattering, that there's like a feeling of, oh no, it's fine, it's not that big of a deal, or other couples fight like this, or I'm sure that this happens to everybody. And it's like we gaslight ourselves into believing it's okay and it's supposed to be that way. Right. You know, whether it's uh been modeled for us before, like through you know, media, childhood, all that kind of shit, we really buy into the illusion of like this is just how it is.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes, yes, and uh, I did not want to see all of the red flags all over the place in relationships because I did not know how to handle them. And so instead of doing something about them, I I just I observed them, you know what I mean? Like, and I I was like, Well, I don't know, it'll uh it'll be okay, you know, because I didn't know then, but I can see now that I wasn't already practicing choosing me first. I was trying to fix the other person.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

I was making them into whatever potential I saw in them at my own expense. Yeah. Financially, mentally, emotionally, socially, all of it.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Oh, it's it's it's such a fucking bummer, too. Like being in love with potential, it's a romanticized fixer mentality. Yep. You know, you end up believing they'll change in a life-alternating way that's gonna be better fit to your needs, and that you're the fucking one that's gonna do it. But but you're not in love with who they are, you're in love with who they could be. So whether it's your own expectations or your own dreams, you're in love with somebody who doesn't exist in the relationship.

SPEAKER_00:

Right. You're in love with whatever version of them is in your head. Right. And I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I'm just saying that's not the reality that you're living in, huh?

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

It wasn't the reality I was living in.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

And then inevitably, whenever force is applied in a singular direction, we continue to bend until we meet a breaking point. Right. Something happens, a casual comment that you heard that you cannot unhear, that keeps you up at night, the notification that you cannot shake, that gut feeling that demands to be heard, you know, the one that you tried to ignore continually. Well, it's back, and this time it's gonna be felt.

SPEAKER_02:

Listen, and when it happens, you can't fucking unsee that shit. Yeah. Like you can't turn that shit off. It's it's like it consumes you. It's gonna be the only thing that you fucking see. And you get to do what's best for you. And no one can tell you what that is. The only person that can do that is yourself. Right. So you gotta trust your gut, you gotta trust your instincts. And you obviously have to have conversations worth having and let go of the need to be heard in the space that you've been screaming in. They're not gonna fucking listen. They don't care. Right. They don't give a shit. It now you're just being overreacting and emotional, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And if you're begging somebody to be heard, why are you why are you why are you still there? Why are you give why are you giving them another word? You don't know anyone an explanation. You can choose your own piece every time. Walk the fuck away. Correct. There's no amount of begging. Plead, and I did that. I was I begged. I pleaded. I was like, look, like, cause I like uh my previous relationship, I was financially abused. I was like, I need you to fucking like because this person, I was just like, I I their potential. I was just like, holy shit. And you know, fucking walk away from that shit. Walk away. Do yourself a favor, walk away.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. And healing and moving on sometimes comes with feelings like pain, betrayal, anger, guilt. And however it shows up, it's okay to trust the process.

SPEAKER_03:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

But we personally encourage you to seek guidance and counseling and professional support because you matter.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

And also don't think that you're stupid.

SPEAKER_02:

Because you're not. Don't don't don't don't say, oh, you're so stupid. And how could you be so blah? Listen, that's it. Let it go. Like, let it go. You can learn from this, you know? Like now, like it's like you recognize it and you're you're more aware. Now you are more aware, you're more in tune, and that's great. You don't need to beat yourself up. That that was you don't have to do that. It's it's very, very unnecessary and it's counterproductive. Just move forward with it and grieve without you know saying mean things to yourself.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. Because whether or not harm has been done, it's enough.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

So move on with it, you know, and loving potential doesn't mean that you're delusional. You can you can absolutely be encouraging, supporting, loving, caring, and genuine. And do it in a way that honors and respects and reflects who you are. Right. May your relationship spread joy and well-being for you and for your partner. Or partners. As long as well, not uh no, no caveat. No caveat. I'm not even gonna put in my fucking two cents. You wanna know why?

SPEAKER_02:

Why?

SPEAKER_00:

That's not my relationship.

SPEAKER_02:

There you go.

SPEAKER_00:

Hey oh.

unknown:

Hey.

SPEAKER_00:

That's uh that got nothing to do with me. You wanna be polyamorous? That is lovely. Personally, for me, I've tried it. Did not did not uh did not did not float my boat. My boat was not floated. No didn't float your goat. Sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side.

SPEAKER_02:

Nope. Get over there. God damn it, this grass is dead here too. This is bullshit.

SPEAKER_01:

Two dead grasses. Now I got two dead two. Now I got two dead grasses, and everybody everybody's an asshole. That's it. I'm done. I'm leaving. It's like, well, uh, this sucks. Have fun with that dead grass. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

But we don't have to fear healing just because we've experienced pain. Right. Like there is like the grass can be greener. Water your fucking grass, babe. Right, right. Water your fucking grass.

SPEAKER_02:

And it's it's boundaries. Yeah. Step right, like bound when you're when you first start talking to a person, just put it down. Like, put it the fuck down. It's the coolest fucking thing. Because right there, you're weeding out all the dumbasses. It's like, hey, this is who I am, this is what I do, this is what I represent, and this is how I roll. This is these are my no-go's, these are my must-haves. Do you fit this description? No? Okay. Well, it was great to talk to you. Do you agree to the terms and conditions henceforth? Right. It's legislative. I don't know. Like it's there any questions, comments, concerns, love letters, hate mail. And really, there's nothing, there's nothing wrong with having those conversations. And it needs to be normalized. Yeah. I think a lot of time that people don't want to, you know, they're just like, oh, but it's a new relationship. No, find out if they're going to be the right person before you end up go it.

SPEAKER_00:

It's been better that it's a new relationship.

SPEAKER_02:

That's what like that's where it should all start. Like get it, get it done right off the bat because you don't know them. They don't know you. Right. You guys may never see each other ever, ever again. Right. So and there's no point in wasting time on someone's you know, that's not gonna be exactly what you need. Right. You don't you don't have to work with it. You don't have to, you know, you don't have to uh lower your lower your expectations. You don't have to lower your standards. Don't. As a matter of fact, I have the most delusional high standard. And I'm gonna tell you something. Have the highest fucking standards. And if anybody tells you that your standards are too high, I would say just tell them to go fuck themselves. Honestly. Because I there was a moment in time where I was like, you know what? I did think, I was like, you know what, Aaron, your standards now, like because I did, I was like, okay, this is I'm not doing this shit again. Like this isn't these are the things that I require of a partner. That's it. And it's it's all or nothing. I'm not here to fucking spruce shit up. I'm not here to work on you. Um this is I'm showing up for me as I am. Here's here's that. And I'm not gonna fucking settle or work with or try to deal with like anything less than I know that what I deserved.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02:

So yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. And like and absolutely have grace. Right. Because we are absolutely 1,000 per we're human beings. Right. And we fuck up.

SPEAKER_03:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

We make mistakes, and I think as long as we continue to show up in a genuine, honest, respectful, receptive way.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

We can really break some ground.

SPEAKER_02:

Absolutely, absolutely. It uh yeah. Kindness, love, and understanding. Curiosity, kindness, love, and understanding. Yeah, that's uh that's how we approach anything that we need to talk about. And it works well for us. And it's scary sometimes. You know, it is scary, and sometimes, you know, it does take a minute, but we do, you know, we say that. It's like, hey, I do have some flots and feels. Uh it's gonna take me a moment to collect these. That's fine. You can do that.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, and I would much rather do that than finding.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, you know, I'd much rather that than like just silence and just sweeping under the rug. I don't do sweeping under the rug shit.

SPEAKER_00:

I would much rather a hey, I mentally cannot I I'm not in a mental space to have this conversation right now. Right. Can I have five, ten minutes? Can I have, you know, a 30-minute lunch break? Whatever the fuck you need to do, but communicate that shit.

SPEAKER_02:

Gather them thoughts.

SPEAKER_00:

Gather them thoughts, right? And then have an honest, genuine, legitimate conversation. Wear your fucking unicorn hats, understand that you're both here as humans, doing this human experience for the first fucking time. And we're doing it together, damn it. It's a group project. Let's go.

SPEAKER_02:

And if you and if you if you feel like and if you feel like, well, I don't I don't want to I don't want to come off as an asshole because it's too direct. No, be direct. Be an asshole. Be an asshole. But like if you think if that's what you think an asshole is, be an asshole. Be fucking direct. Yep. Beat don't beat around the goddamn bush. Be fucking direct. It's gonna save you so much fucking time. And it's scary, but the more you do it, it gets easier. Yeah, it does. I promise it does. It boosts your confidence. You feel real sexy after doing that shit. I'm just saying. Yo, like I'm just like, goddamn.

SPEAKER_00:

I think about us, and I was looking at earlier today, I was looking at all of our downloads on our on our service, on our streaming service, and I was just seeing like what content is really doing well and like what kind of topics you guys seem to be interested in, and and um like what vibes with y'all. And our number one downloaded episode is our first episode, which is the introductory episode where um where we're doing the the disclaimer, and like honestly, I don't recognize that girl.

SPEAKER_02:

No, I don't recognize that girl at all. No, it's it's it's very interesting. Um yeah, there's there's been a tremendous amount of I also you sound so sweet and innocent. I know, and it's so cutesy, and I'm just like, aww, it's so cute. Now we're just like fuck blah blah baby. Like it but it's yeah, it's I don't know. I I love watch I love because I've I do. I like to I have all of our fucking text messages, and yeah, I do go back and I do listen to our episodes because I love to see progression.

SPEAKER_00:

I do know I love to because I think it makes now so much more impactful. Yeah, absolutely. Because you can see how far. In fact, I'm gonna I'm gonna put in a little snippet of that disclaimer. Hi, I'm Cory. We are going to use our dirty potty mouths. You will hear the F word, you may even hear a G D in there. I do edit out some. However, I'm not going to censor ourselves too much. You can hear it in the in the tone of my mind. You might hear the F word. Or a G D. A G D fuck out of here. Who the f get move. Mauve. Let me have the microphone.

SPEAKER_02:

Right. And also, like, and you know, when you're new to something, you don't want to offend. And you just want to prepare people. Like, hey, we might swear. And we might, yeah, well, fuck yeah. I am gonna swear. And it's like it's very unbecoming. I don't give a fuck. I'm not here for your standards. If you find me aggress like too aggressive or abrasive, then find me less. Right. Find me less. That's okay. You don't have to like me. That's fine. I like me. Correct. So and that's what fucking matters. Right. It might and that's and that's another thing, is like the uh people's opinions do not concern me. They don't, it's none of my fucking concern. I am who I am and I do what I do. That's that. So I love that.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah. What uh what what listener questions you got for our listeners today? What do what do you want to hear about them? What do you want to hear from them?

SPEAKER_02:

How many of you out there are in relationships where you're ignoring red flags? Do you got red flags that are popping up? I want to know about it. What are you settling for? What are you realizing that you're settling for?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, what do you realize you're settling for? Right. Yeah. That's a good question. Holy shit. Because I'm telling you right now, I got goosebumps from I do too.

SPEAKER_02:

Like I got goosebumps on my knees. That's wild. What the fuck's that? Right?

SPEAKER_00:

It's it's fucking like if somebody asked me that question four years ago, my life would have changed.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. It would have shattered it to pieces.

SPEAKER_00:

It would have. I don't know where that timeline would have taken me. Right. But I can almost safely assuredly say it might not have been here. Right.

SPEAKER_02:

Right.

SPEAKER_00:

So I'm grateful for the way that things have gone.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah, big same.

SPEAKER_00:

So what do you want what do you say? You wanna wrap this up? Yes. Let's wrap this up like a bowl of soup. Soup in plastic wrap. A soup sack.

SPEAKER_03:

What? Soups.

SPEAKER_00:

Like a sack of soup.

SPEAKER_02:

Oh, a sock of soup.

SPEAKER_00:

A sack. A sack.

SPEAKER_02:

About as sharp as sharp as a sock of soup. So, um. Yeah, wrap that up like a baby. I mean a bowl of soup. A sack of soup. A sack of soup. So, um, stay weird. Stay wild. Stay whimsical.

SPEAKER_01:

Stay bold, stay bold.

SPEAKER_02:

And most importantly, stay queerly committed. Bye.

SPEAKER_00:

Follow us on YouTube and Instagram.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah. Follow us on the socials. Send them some messages in the show. Uh yeah. We look forward to hearing from you. Okay, bye.

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